Vicious CyclePosted: May 25, 2011
By Jared, age 11
When I was in kindergarten and first grade, my dad was deployed a lot of the time so I didn’t get to know him. I thought he was this mean and scary guy but he was only mad then because he was always having to fly. I just had to learn over time that he was only like that when he was mad I was getting in a lot of trouble because I didn’t have the mentorship of a father very often. I saw him when he was mostly mad so I took that as mature and I was a bully to other little kids. The reason why I did that is I thought it was normal yelling at other kids, the physical part was all me; I knew that it was wrong but it showed the other kids who said I wasn’t as strong them. At least we were overseas, so my school and teachers understood what I was going through.
Now that my Dad has been home more I got to know him better, and realized that he’s a good guy. We started to spend more time together and I realized that being mad was a vicious cycle for both of us. We both have short tempers, but when I control my actions then I make friends more easily, and I don’t need to prove anything to anyone. It’s good to know that my Dad “gets” me, and whether he is home or deployed, he’s always there for me.